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8 Tips on how to fix a broken and troubled friendship

Usually  most friendships go through difficult times, but one big fight may make you feel like the end of the relationship is coming. However, a friend’s relationships deserve every effort to save them, especially if you are really interested and care for your friend. It may be difficult to reform the troubled friendship, but be sure that those difficulties will make your relationship stronger than before.

1 – Take the initiative of reconciliation;

 If there is a rupture between two persons, one of them must take the first step. Be that person and your friend will know that you have a serious desire to fix things between you. Think about how to take this step according to the nature of the person and the depth of the dispute between you. It may take some different ways to restore the connection between you.

2 -Try to communicate with him in different ways;

 be in contact with him either by phone or by leaving a voice message telling him that you really want to fix things, then leave him a text message with the same content.

3 -Send him or her an email if they block your text messages or contact them via social media if they ignore your email. If your previous attempts are in vain, you can try visiting him or her at home.

4 – After all previous attempts, you have to give him a chance to respond before you try another way, it is not desirable to make him feel pressured.

5 -If you both agree to meet, it would be better for that interview or meeting to take place in a public place to avoid that anyone of you will feel awe or embarrassment.  Respect your friend’s desire in his personal space; You have to step back and wait for a  little bit if he refuses to meet you or your visit to him, he needs his personal space and you should respect this. Choose the right time and be ready to express what is going on around you and inside you.

You should not put pressure on your friend if you see that he wants space between you and him for a while. This will only make him feel frustrated and more frustrated.

6– Talk about the problem frankly and explain everything you feel about it, then ask him to do it too; give him time to talk and be a good listener and do not interrupt him while he is speaking. In this way, both of you will have the right to put forward his view of the problem and its causes and put everything that happened on the table of discussion, express your feelings without using sharp or accusatory words. For example, instead of saying, “you acted foolishly, “you can ask him: “Why did you act like this? I do not understand why.

7 – Use “I” in the conversation format, to avoid informing him that you blame him for what happened. This will generate a tone of peace in your speech. For example, instead of saying, “You were a selfish person,” you could say something like, “I felt you did not care about my feelings, and your talk hurt me a lot.”

8 -Apologize and accept his apology; Do this even if you are not guilty and you are sure that what happened is his fault. Starting an apology makes things more pleasant, so you can say, “I’m really sorry for what happened to us.”

If you did wrong against him, then you must apologize for this with all sincerity.

If he apologized, accept his apology with obvious gratitude

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